A small dilemma
R is turning 11 this weekend. We didn't plan a party. We just planned to take her out somewhere for the day. My husband and I have come up with this idea to take a couple of friends and surprise her but the dilemma is who. We are both opting for those we feel would be the best behaved and get on the best together in a group of 3 rather than those she would necessarily choose herself. The girls we had in mind, she gets on well with but I am pretty sure that, given the choice, she would choose a girl from school who is totally wild and very difficult to control. Her peers find her hard work, too, but R loves her. She is a bit like R but the total extreme of her and it would make for a very stressful outing and I couldn't think who else to invite who'd not get irritated by her and who is also friendly with R. OTOH, I know this girls' mum would be upset if we went out without her and R would feel a bit guilty, too. WWYD?